Helping Your Child Through the Grieving Process
Helping Your Child Through the Grieving Process
Guidelines for Parents
· As soon as possible after the death, set time aside to talk to your child.
· Give your child the facts in a simple manner; be truthful but avoid unnecessary and graphic details, especially with younger children. Your child might ask more questions later as they come to mind.
· Use the correct language, e.g., “dead” or “died”. Do not use phrases such as: “He’s sleeping” or “He went away.” Younger children may be frightened by such references.
· Explain your feelings to your child, especially if you are crying. Give him/her permission to cry, too. You are the role model for your child and it is good for your child to see your sadness and for you to share your feelings with him/her.
· Reassure your child that you will be available to support him/her.
· Watch for behavioral changes in your child. If your child’s reaction to the death concerns you, seek professional help from a school counselor or therapist.
· Behaviors to look for may include: isolation, loss of appetite, aggressive behavior or becoming defiant when otherwise a well-behaved child.
· Sudden death, violent death, and the death of a young person are especially hard to grieve.
· Disruptions of sleep, appetite and daily activities are normal responses to a traumatic event.
· Make adjustments for anxieties and fears, especially at bed time, and times of separation.
Please do not hesitate to contact the school if you have any questions or concerns regarding your child. We can be reached at (321) 269-3252.